[Originally posted to my blog ‘Point of Tears’ on May 3, 2005.]
This is my cause and I hope that you’ll take the time to help me with a little something. It will not require that you send me money, run for twenty-six miles, or five miles, or even three miles. Shit. You don’t even have to get your lazy butt out of your seat if you don’t want to. Feel free to sit at your computer and eat pringles or ho-hos while you help me with this small thing. Or run around in circles. It’s all good.
Every year since 1998 I’ve gone on a mission. I peruse the web for local radio stations, TV stations, and newspapers in hopes that they will help me spread the word. I send an email out to everyone in my address book at home and at work. And this year I’m posting it on my blog in hopes of spreading the word even farther this year.
On Sunday some mothers will be crying instead of celebrating. You may think you don’t know one of these mothers, but chances are, you do. They are all around you, at school, at work, on the street. They are your sisters, your aunts, your mothers and grandmothers.
They are birthmothers … women who have entrusted their children to adoption.
The babies who are surrendered for adoption are loved so much that their mothers make the heartbreaking decision to place them in an adoption; but once the adoption is complete, the woman who carried the baby and gave it birth and life is never acknowledged again as a mother.
Birthmother’s Day is held the day before Mother’s Day to signify that without birthmothers and their difficult choice, many adoptive mothers would not have had the chance to be mothers. About 60 percent of Americans have a personal connection to adoption. You probably know someone who was adopted, or a couple who adopted a child. But it’s unlikely you could name the woman you know who has entrusted her baby to adoption.
If you do know her, honor her this Saturday on Birthmother’s Day. If you’re not sure who she is, say a little prayer in honor of all birthmothers, and thank them for acting as all good moms do…for the sake of their children.
And how you can help in a small way to get the word out is to please post this, link to this, or if you don’t have a blog, email this to everyone you know.
Let us be invisible no more.