I was wrong.
To think you
As I love
I was wrong.
I was wrong.
To think you
As I love
I was wrong.
Most guys I know are pretty practical creatures. I mean, tell a guy your woes and they’ll do what they can to fix them. Whether the “fix” be knocking someone out or fixing your car, men like to solve problems. So it shouldn’t surprise anyone to know that most men consider buying flowers a waste of money.
Think about it. You pay $50 and they slowly wither and die before your eyes. Then what do you have? An empty vase. Usually a cheap, ugly empty vase that’s not good for much of anything except hiding under the sink. Great.
So far I’m with you. Paying $50 for something that’s just going to die in a week certainly isn’t the most practical thing to buy as a gift. Why not spend your money on something she would have forever – or at least longer than a week. I mean, for the price of roses on Valentine’s day, you could buy her a Kindle for God’s sake! Instead (says The Man) why not buy her a dvd of the first movie you saw together? (Romantic!) A cool app for her phone? (Fantastic!) What about that book you were telling her about? (Intelligent!)
Quite frankly, all of the ideas above are top notch. Heck! Most of them are cheaper than flowers. All of them will last more than a week. On top of that, most women would love all of the above. But I’m here to tell you: Do not write off giving flowers to your woman! They really do mean more to a woman than just colorful plants waiting to die. Let me explain..
Top 10 Reasons to Buy Her Flowers
Now before you hop on the phone or computer, let me give you a some tips on how to maximize your efforts!
Flower Buying Tips
Now go get ‘er tiger and good luck!
[Originally posted to my blog 'Point of Tears' on Nov 15, 2005.]
While cleaning out the car on Friday I found an index card with this little tidbit on it:
Taking a moment of silence in my chaotic day I lay floating in the bright blue pool and, for the first-time-in-I-don’t-know-how-long I gaze up into the sky at the billowing clouds and see a boy in a cape flying on a magic carpet, a wedding dress, an alligator, a rabbit, a kite, and a path leading deep into a range of mountains that I imagine myself pedaling along. . .until the chaos of my life intrudes, and when I look back at the sky, the wind has blown it all away.
[Originally posted to my blog 'Point of Tears' on Feb 15, 2005.]
Every once in a while I take the time to look at my stats page. It helps to look at this to determine if there is anything I need to do to keep those ugly spammers from flooding my comments again, and it’s fun preen to see so many passing through (ya right).
But what’s the most fun about my Stats page?
Checking out the key phrases that were used on search engines to bring random people to my site.
So what’s the most common? Easy. http://www.pointoftears.com. Although why you would put a website url into a search engine to find it is beyond me. There are also some fairly normal phrases used to find me that make sense. Like “Live to the point of tears,” which is actually the quote from Albert Camus that I used to create the *feel* for this place. What is really interesting are some of the more. . .colorful phrases used to find me.
Top five most interesting phrases used in search engines to find my blog:
Number 5 - rate my boob (do I talk about my boobs THAT much?!?)
Number 4 – meatball coloring paper (oooo-KAAAAAY)
Number 3 – vaginal birth pictures (Note to self: No more talking about my vagina online)
Number 2 – the urge to just look into your eyes and say i was sorry would make a normal person fall to the ground in tears but what you gave me will always keep me strong (am I *really* that sappy???)
And the Number 1 interesting phrase used to locate my journal. . .cherie pummel (Now I know I have a tendency to piss people off but COME ON PEOPLE!!!)
Oh, and after checking out the most common single words used to find me here I have determined that either I swear too much or I have an obsession with sex. Take you’re pick.
[Originally posted to my blog 'Point of Tears' on Feb 15, 2005.]
I took the day off today. I don’t take days off very often, but we were suppose to go up to the lake but decided to wait until the four day weekend.
As such, I didn’t have any plans to go anywhere, or anything special planned for my day off so when my Mom suggested a day trip to Capitola and the beach the Brat and I jumped at the chance.
But Fate, you’re probably saying, the weather was horrible today on the coast. Couldn’t you have picked a better day?
Probably. But you see, my daughter and I love the water so much it’s unlikely you’d get us to say no to a trip to the coast. So off we went.
And yes, we did go to the beach in the rain. We weren’t any crazier than the tens of surfers out there. I mean, all we did was roll up our pant legs as high as they could go and wade in the surf a bit.
The beach was actually beautiful today. The sky with dark blue-grey roiling clouds, and the tide coming in. . .I could sit there all day and take it in.
But I didn’t sit. I walked along the beach, tempting fate by veering further and further into the rising tide. If I could have, I would have stripped down and dove into the water. Yes, I know it’s cold. My feet were numb after about five minutes. . .but I love the water. I love the ocean and the feel of the sand under my feet, the crash of the wave over me, the salty smell. . .I love everything about it. I mean, it wouldn’t be the first time I went into the ocean in the middle of the winter!
I taught the Brat how to stand still as the tide went back to sea so you could feel the water drag the sand out from under your feet. I ran after her and splashed her, (were we really dumb enough to not bring extra clothes?), waded into the water further and further, picked up shells (she’s a collector of EVERYTHING), and generally just had a good time.
But underneath the fun, my mind was tinged with sadness. For this beach town is my son’s town. This is where he lives with his family, and I miss him. It probably sounds silly to say, but I can almost feel a closer connection to him in that town. I spent some of my last weeks pregnant with him laying on a beach just down the road. Waddling out into the waves to float suspended in the salty water, introducing him to one of my favorite places in the world. I know that now he loves the water. Much like myself and his sister, he loves the water with a passion and would rather be in it than out of it.
I took a moment there today at the edge of the ocean. A moment to close my eyes, open my senses, and think of him. I hope my message got through.
Happy Valentine’s Day Ross. I love you and miss you more than you will ever know.
[Originally posted to my blog 'Point of Tears' on Mar 10, 2005.]
I haven’t written any poetry or even any really decent prose in a long while. While perusing some of my old Live Journal posts I found the following and thought I would share. The pieces picked range from short poetry to longer freethought pieces pulled directly from my mind. Each piece was picked mainly because I like the sound of my own writing. Partly because I’m trying to remember how to fucking write something after having my brain turned to math mush twice a week. Please be warned that I did not pick one piece. I picked several pieces that I have enjoyed. I hope you enjoy them as well.
3000 miles away
you hold my heart
3000 miles away
my blood frantically
pumps along my veins
3000 miles away
you hold me captive
3000 miles away
with invisible bonds
of my own creation
3000 miles apart
to lay a foundation
through a phone line
to bind me
I AM NOT BOUND
I AM NOT TIED
HEART FLIES FREE
SOUL WANDERS LOOSE
TREAD ON ME
MY MIND & BODY
TO DO WITH WHAT I WILL
TO GIVE TO WHOM I PLEASE
HERE I STAND
MIND & BODY MINE
STANDING ON THE EDGE
WANTING TO GIVE
IT ALL TO YOU
IT WILL FALL
TRHOUGH YOUR FINGERS
AND I WILL BE GONE
I live in a world of emotion. My emotions like the wind in my mind. Following the contours of my thoughts, rushing through the cracks of my life able to permeate even the tightest closed door of my mind.
If I close my eyes and put my fingers to the keyboard, I can tell you all about the walk I took today. I can, without looking at anything except the pictures behind my eyelids, tell you how the pavement steadily met my feet, one by one thump thumping in what seemed an endless walk to nowhere. I can tell you about the smell of anise, growing thick along the path and the wafting scent of the never-ending raspberry thickets falling down the side of the hills down to the small stream under the trees that beckoned me to clamber down and sit along it’s side and listen to the water move merrily down it’s bed to a place that exists only in my imagination.
I can tell you about the trees reaching gracefully to the sky, taking a twisting, turning path with it’s branches ending in small berries interspersed with long, oval, dusty green leaves. The darkening sky, wisps of clouds riding the invisible currents of air. The lowering sun reflecting blue, purple, pink and green of all things off of the windows of an office building I could see over the fence. I could describe the sweat sliding down my skin, puddling in the middle of my back and into my eyebrows and the slow burning heat of my muscles as I pushed harder with each step…imagining the body I WANT coming out from under the body I HAVE with each and every step.
There are so many things I could tell you..if I close my eyes and put my fingers to the keyboard. Problem is, what can I tell you when I open my mouth? I can’t. What is it that makes it so my brain and fingers connect, but not my brain and mouth? What is so much harder about opening your mouth and saying words to another human being? Does anyone out there have any ideas? Cause I know it causes problems for me…not being able to connect brain with mouth versus brain with fingers. Well, brain connecting with fingers in certain circumstances can be a GOOD thing…like…English class for instance! (What were you thinking?!? Geez! Get your mind out of the gutter!)
I sit here in the night, the place and time I am most comfortable. No people except myself. My music, words and sounds combining in never-ending ways, evoking emotions, sights, tastes; moments of my life that have been, might have been, will be, may be or will never ever happen no matter how hard I wish it to be. The only light coming from the screen in front of me, white and unforgiving; and the moon outside, it’s soft light filtering through the trees outside my windows.
I think I am most comfortable during this time of day, night..whatever, because it allows me to be me. Not some person that the world expects me to be. Not the person *I* expect me to be. Just me. With my geek glasses sliding down my nose, sloping slant of my back because for the life of me I can’t seem to sit up straight when I type, light tan bra digging into my shoulders pulling at the middle of my back holding me in and up, ear popping, foot tapping, body sagging, knuckle cracking, talking to herself just to hear how the words on the screen *really* sound…it’s all just..well, me.
Yesterday I watched with a smile as a kindergardner and his father sprinted down the sidewalk, trying to get to class before the bell rang. The look of micheviousness and fun on their faces had me wondering if that same little boy would remember that day, years later. I also started wondering what days/hours/moments my own child would remember when she was grown; and I began trying to remember what moments I remember with my own parents.
Unfortunately, the majority of memories that filter to the surface are not good ones like a parent and a child running in abandon. It wasn’t my dad pushing me on a swing, or my mom teaching me a new skill. My memories are of screaming matches, and fingers gripping my throat tight until I couldn’t breathe…every muscle straining to pull them away. They were of arguments on our front lawn, as we packed the car to go on another trip..each moment tense with anger and tears…my brother and myself cringing into the backseat…hoping they forget we exist for just one moment more. It is objects whistling past my head and bouncing off the walls..leaving a dent in it’s wake. Screaming at my father one more time for calling my mom a “bitch”..and having him turn his anger to me rather than her…only to find my hair in one of his hands, my neck in another..and my mom beating his back trying to make him stop. Eyes full of hate, veins popping full of blood coursing adreneline through his body, muscles tensing for that moment of release…and me hoping beyond hope that I could distract him long enough so that he wouldn’t touch my brother. The day I held a knife in one hand, that same blood of my father’s coursing adreneline through my veins, muscles tensing for that moment of release..and barely being able to mutter under my breath, “if you want to live…run….” to my brother, who stood..so young and oh so frightened, not knowing what to do…until he got it..and ran for his life. Sitting on the side of my mother’s bed…dispensing tissue for her red eyes and dripping nose…listening to my mother wail about my father leaving her. Something I already knew…because he left me and my brother too…but she had forgotten that..forgotten us in her sorrow. My mother screaming at me from the other side of the door because I understood that he was not coming back…and she had yet to understand.
I have to stop. Too many memories overflowing into my NOW.
This explains a lot..don’t you think? My inability to share my emotions…these are the reasons why it’s not “safe” to share. Just bits and pieces. Just moments that I lived…all of them added up together are only a small small portion of my time on earth..but each one has been indelibly etched upon my SELF. Of course, for this small portion of my life, there are thousands of other moments I don’t remember. Birthdays, Christmases, Thanksgivings, Easters, summer vacations…and all those moments inbetween.
Out of all of that something positive? I remember growing up my parents having a secret language all their own. Each card signed with acronyms…and never would they tell me what they meant. Not even to this day do I know what all of it means. S.P.O.O.K…..that’s the one I remember most..there were about 10 more that they etched on every card they’ve ever given each other.
Always made me want to find someone I could have my own secret language with that no one except the two of us would ever know. Therein lies my romantic nature..watching two people who loved each other so much..so deeply. Even through all the anger, tears and fear I saw that.
Reading through all of this it makes me wonder once again what moments my daughter will remember when she is grown? And while I can’t change what memories she already has…I can be cognizent that each moment we are together we are creating a memory together..and hope that there are more good ones than bad.
WARNING! This last one is not for the faint of heart. You have been forewarned.
slide it home
slam it hard
and ride it to the apex.
semen drips down my leg,
sly smile upon my face.
I possess only
but am searching for
from the inside
of my cunt.
[Originally posted to my blog 'Point of Tears' on Mar 17, 2005.]
Normally I hate math class.
Normally I hate math class because, well . . . it’s MATH folks. And I hate math.
Today was extra special though.
I was sitting at my computer, minding my own business going through my lesson when, over the sound of the droning voice explaining how to solve a quadratic formula using the factoring method I heard, “…..and the Marine Corps is the branch that brainwashes you.”
I didn’t even take off my headphones. I just fixed the young man with my steely gaze and said, “Learn what ‘brainwashing‘ really is before you make that sort of claim.”
The Instructor (a friend of mine) informs the young man that I’m a “former” Marine. His head swivels quickly around, his eyes wide as he looks at me. I merely nod and go back to my math. For a while I’m immersed in the math, oblivious to the conversation going on in the front of the room.
It sure as hell wasn’t about math.
Seems that a very pretty young lady had decided to join the Air Force.
Why? Well, for no good reason other than she wanted to get away from home.
So the conversation went on down in front and I stayed out of it. Someone else comes in the room, a former classmate of mine from Spanish class. My Instructor is FINALLY done explaing a problem to another student, so I make my way to the front to get him to explain something to me.
The conversation at this point was going kind of like this:
Instructor: You see, she doesn’t have a reason to go in the military.
Student 1: You can’t do that. You HAVE to have a better reason than no reason to go into the military.
Student 1 leaves.
I have the math Instructor help me with my problem and go back to my computer. I am trying, yes folks really really trying to concentrate on my math. Really!
But after this man sits there very casually grilling this young woman for over ten minutes I just can’t take it anymore. So I get up out of my seat and head towards the front of the classroom. Standing in front of my instructor I look him dead in the eye and say, “Leave her alone.”
Instructor: But she doesn’t have a good reason to go into the military other than she wants to get away from the rules! She needs a better reason than that!
Me: Do you want to know why I joined the Marine Corps?
Me: Because I wanted to get away from my family. I wanted to get away from the rules. I wanted to get away from home. That’s it. No other reason.
Instructor: Well, she’ll end up flipping burgers at McDonald’s.
Me: Don’t you DARE tell her that! The Air Force is the BEST branch to go in to learn a good, viable trade.
Instructor: She needs to go to college.
Me: She can go to college while she’s in the Air Force. Shit. They’ll PAY for her to go to school. And after she gets out? She’ll have the GI Bill for anything else she didn’t get finished while she was in.
Instructor: Well, she won’t have the same freedoms she would if she were to stay home. The military has a lot more control over what you do than your parents do. I mean, they can throw you in JAIL for being AWOL . . .
Me: So what you’re saying is that if she breaks a “law” she’ll go to jail. You mean just like here in the civilian world? Where there are consequences for your actions? Imagine that. Try again.
Instructor: She won’t be able to do what she wants to do.
Me: Bullshit. That’s complete bullshit. She can do what she wants to do. The military is in many ways like a job. You can’t do everything you want to do when you have a job, right?
Me: Leave her alone. She has her reasons for going into the military and she doesn’t have to justify them to anyone. Not even you. She’s eighteen. She’s able to sign the contract and go do her thing. Why are you giving her a hard time? Don’t you think she’s already been getting a hard time at home?
I turn to the young woman and tell her . . .You go in the military. You do everything you can to enjoy the time you have in. You make sure you take every opportunity you get. Don’t say no to any of them. You have a good time. You live your life. And when your four years are over? If you want, go back to school. Or get a job. Be happy. Don’t listen to him. Don’t listen to ANY of them. You don’t have to explain it to anyone except yourself.
And after that my Instructor shut up and left her alone.
Civilians are stupid. Again and again I have met people that just don’t get why people go into the military. They want to argue with you. They want to debate your decision. They want to tell you how stupid it is. But I tell you what. . .
THEY are the stupid ones. I don’t have to explain myself to you. I don’t have to justify my military experience. I don’t have to explain to you why I went in. Or why I loved it.
So fuck you if you don’t get it.